Someone offered to speak on my behalf for an opportunity with which I’m seeking. While I know this person could probably move the process forward, I’ll probably decline.
You’re probably thinking, “Well, that’s dumb,” and on the surface, without knowing all the details, it may be.
However, I feel that the cost of this person’s help would far outweigh the benefits. I think the offer is coming from a heart, but there are strings attached. I think this person would continually remind me of “their” help instead of basking in the fact that “they” did a good deed. So, in future conversations, well after the opportunity has passed, “they” would find a way to say, “Well, I helped you get this opportunity.” And “they” would probably try to use this opportunity for their benefit on a greater scale beyond my control.
What do you think? Is this offer of help worth moving forward in my venture? What would you do?
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Sounds like you should trust your gut instincts & politely decline. Somehow our subconscious minds catch warning signs we don’t notice on a conscious level. I call it “getting vibes” 🙂 You’re the kind of person who’ll get there on your own, anyway!
Keri, thanks for your thoughts. While writing this post, I decided against it. I told my friend about the situation and she said that this person could speak on my behalf and mess it up for me. Not because of the referral; because of “their” reputation.